As I sit here on a journey in the air from Perth to Brisbane I reflect on the Journey that lead to me reading your book. Last week the two most special women in my life met you, my wife and my daughter, and much enjoyed their time with you and left with a copy of your book.
Anyway I am the proud husband of and father of the two fine women I have mentioned above, your book was sat on the kitchen table when I go home that night, so when I flew to Karratha on Tuesday I packed it in my bag, finished off the book I was reading and turned the cover on The Irritable Brain Syndrome and wow what a read.
I am lucky in many, many ways and have never had a medical illness really in my life, just a few minor challenges, however having read your book I realise that my head is in the wrong space. Being passionate and a perfectionist, I search for reasons all the time why people are not the same as me and the Australian way “near enough is good enough” causes me such stress. When things go wrong or do not turn out the way I had preserved they would, I seek accountability in my mind and quite often this comes back to me “what did I do wrong, how could I have avoided it? why does the company I work for not respect their people more and adapt a more inclusive management style like mine ” are questions I hear ringing in my head.
Now as I live in the moment at 53 years old and at 38,000 feet your book has opened my eyes, well mind actually. What is all this stress and sometimes guilt and unhappiness doing to my body? and how distracting and detached does this sometimes make me from my family, work work work (in my head). Try as I might, I can’t change things in particular the culture at work that is miss aligned to my personal values (perceptions) so it is time to get out that racket and hit those red tennis balls out of site!
So do I at random pick one from your preferred reading list, or can you recommend to a man in my condition where I start?
I hope to meet you one day, thank you for treating My daughter and wife so well and for signing the book, your bravery to face and overcome the challenges you have faced is an inspiration, thank you for sharing this with the world and me. I read it by chance and it will change my life.
Kindest regards and very best wishes.